Social media is easily the most transformative technology in the past 100 years.
With social media, we have the ability to hear the intimate thoughts from someone halfway across the globe, turn ourselves into mini-celebrities, and do “social spying” on frenemies.
Social media is great. I think it is a good tool.
But with technology this powerful, there are inevitably drawbacks.
“Throughout human history, as our species has faced the frightening, terrorizing fact that we do not know who we are, or where we are going in this ocean of chaos… To think for yourself you must question authority and learn how to put yourself in a state of vulnerable, open-mindedness; chaotic, confused, vulnerability to inform yourself.” – Timothy Leary
In the modern day, “self-awareness” and “being in touch with your emotions” is in vogue.
It’s “cool” to be “self-aware”. It’s a badge of honor. But is being self-aware for the sake of being self-aware a mechanism for understanding life or another trophy you can put in the cabinet?
In my opinion, self-awareness is the highest crowning achievement of a human being. It’s like a superpower. It elevates you to a godlike status.
In a world full of so much ambiguity and things you should or should not do, self-awareness will help you to discern the “good” from the “bad”.
This is my take on how to develop self-awareness and increase whatever self-awareness you have.
A lot of young men get to the point where they feel this tingling feeling in the pit of their stomach.
They feel it when they’re sitting at the desk of their 9-5 entry-level job.
They feel it when they’re sitting in their car going back home.
They feel it when they lay their head on the pillow and look up at the ceiling – wishing, hoping, praying for sleep.
They feel it when they’re sitting on the couch watching TV with their significant other.
That feeling is summed up in the question: “should I break up with my girlfriend?”
In Western society, more prospective students (and some of their parents) are asking this question and for various reasons.
Rising costs of going to school (books and board ain’t cheap!), lower guarantee of having a (good) job, the changing landscape of work, even the recent college admissions scandal is forcing Western society to reexamine whether a college education is worth it today.
This article will not give you a definite “yes” or “no” answer.
Instead, it will give you food for thought.
If you’re already in college, it will give you more insight into if you should continue or not.
This is all well and good, but the unfortunate aftermath of this is the disregard of what I call “negative thinking” or “negative motivation”.
Not too long ago, I wrote about the science of motivation and how to get yourself going from a physiological perspective.
Here’s the psychological perspective from a slightly “darker” side.
Most of us live in a first-world country with more opportunity and available resources than even a king had 1,000 years ago.
But still, many of us think with a scarcity-based mindset rather than one of abundance.
I’m here to tell you that if you want to succeed and live an amazing life, you’re going to need to develop an abundance mindset.
This article will teach you just that. Here’s what you’ll also learn:
If there’s anything we like to do as humans, it’s show off.
Cars, clothes, fancy job titles, luxury items, living situations…you name it. We want to flaunt it if we’ve got it. Why is this?
It’s because we as human beings (like most other social animals) are primed towards status and status-seeking behaviors.
In fact, this priming is a large source of motivation for young people, especially men.
If you want to take advantage of this motivation, you need to understand how status works.
This article is going to be a brief overview of how you can increase your social status, why it’s incredibly important, and things that can hurt or distort your view of yourself, preventing you truly making progress.
Status is a very complex topic, but I’ll try my best to scratch the surface.
Rejection hurts. We’ve all been there. Anyone you can think of who is seen as some sort of demigod or cultural sex symbol has been there.
Denzel Washington has been rejected.
Brad Pitt has been rejected.
Powerful business leaders such as Bill Gates – have been rejected.
It’s “one of those things” of being human.
When people think of “being rejected”, they envision romantic rejection.
However, rejection comes in different flavors such as physical, mental, and emotional.
There’s a subtle nuanced type of rejection and how to deal with it. That’s what this article is going to be speaking of.
“The starting point of all achievement is DESIRE. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desire brings weak results, just as a small fire makes a small amount of heat.” – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
We all know that feeling we get when we’re deeply motivated.
We feel that fire in the belly, that whirlwind of excitement.
We feel like we have the strength of 10 men.
In our highly competitive world, someone who doesn’t have motivation is at a major disadvantage.
Where does this feeling come from? Why does it feel so fleeting? Why is it not able to get us through long-term goals?
This topic is one I am fascinated by because I am always looking for ways to motivate myself and others.
I’m going to take a slightly different turn in this article and look at intrinsic and some extrinsic sources of motivation, addressing it at its root.